ummm...This is a pretty common manipulator move. Trying to blame everyone but themselves for their woes. I know it hurts, but it really isn't YOUR responsibility for someone else's happiness. Your friend should have spoke up and since he didn't it's no one's fault but his. His comments about Chairo were petty and unecessary and I think a good indicator of a level of immaturity. I read through a few other posts and I was struck by comments like he's been in a shell in NJ and spent a lot of time on his own. I wonder why he expected to go to a new place and everything would be different? Maybe that's the root of the problem, too many expectations on other people without wanting to put any effort in himself. It has to be a two way street.


I hope you two can work it out and maybe some good will come out of it if your friend realizes t hat he needs to speak up and quite waiting for everything to happen to him.